Are you taking date nights out with your spouse??
Over and over I am hearing about couples who aren’t taking the time to get away! Our marriages should be our top priority but how are we to keep on top of our marriage if we don’t know the ones that we are married to? People change constantly and so without constantly taking the time to learn about the one we share our lives with we quickly can lose sight of who they are! Mathew and I have made it so where it’s impossible for us to do this by making that we get out and talk or do something where we can spend time together relearning each other which has been such a good thing for us especially since we have three littles who make life quite stressful.
So I keep hearing excuses like “we don’t have a babysitter/money for a babysitter” or “we haven’t money for a date”
Not to mean but I actually find these to be lame excuses!
When it comes to babysitters why not see if you can trade with a friend that way you don’t need to pay for a babysitter. Or you can ask around at your church to see who is recommended as a babysitter. You can ask the teens in your church if they are looking for babysitting jobs. If you live in a college town like I do often those within the early education program’s are looking for children that they can hang out with to add to their experiences. Yes I know that we kneed to be careful about who we allow in our children’s lives but again ask around so you have an idea who is good and trusted.
When it comes to dates did anyone think about the fact that you can go on dates without spending money? The point of a date is to spend time with each other and that is easily done without money. Some of the dates that Mathew and I do are the ones where we spend little or no money. We walk around malls, downtown, lakes, parks, and go for hikes. We also like to go to book stores and just hang out looking at books or just sitting and talking. We also get some of our best talking in while driving in the car (which can be done without a babysitter if your kids sleep in the car) o we like to drive random places around town just exploring and spending time together.
If you get to have a date night and you don’t know what to do or where to start getting to relearn each other then start from the beginning. Do things that you did when you were dating! And make the focus of the date to get to relearn things about each other.
Seriously what excuses do you have to taking date nights and what are you going to do to overcome them so that your marriage can thrive in this stressful, marriage tearing world?